Why is the Earth so mad ??

A few months ago, Haiti was hit badly by an earthquake that kills thousands and the world can not take its breath yet with the help and rebuilt. And now, it's Chile. A massive magnitude 8.8 earthquake. The number of death is reaching 147 according to CNN, and it's expecting to rise !!!

And the whole areas laying on the Pacific are at alert because of a possible Tsunami .

These are some pictures from Reuters and Time :-

and a video about the quake :-

What is going inside our mother ?

Why is she so mad ??

My prayers go to those killed and injured . And hopefully this Tsunami-if it happens- will pass quickly and with no harm.

Burger King's Commercial

Have you seen the Burger King's commercial where they have two guys who supposed to be Saudis and the usual stereotype conversation ?
To me, it was not offencive and if any thought it was , then it would be for both cultures.
It was funny.

* i don't know if it has aried already or would soon.

What would diabetes do to you and how can you prevent it ?

This whole week i was sick and didn't know if it was the back to school that made me so tired and have huge headache. It was not, it was my diabetes .

I kept checking my blog and comment and have a lot to write about but was a bit concerned because this time it was mostly my sight that was concerning the doctor and i had to use a drop at the doctor's office more than 7 times over two days, each time for half an hour, to check the Retinal. It supposed to widen after 15 to 30 minutes . But nothing happened to me for two days and 7 time.

Today , the doctor was able to check and told me that my retinal is not affected but the blood vessels are a bit affected and that i need to take "Disprin", or baby aspirin , for good , along with my other medicine i have for the diabetes.

I hate medicines and mostly pills, which is why i always stop having them for sometime until i got really sick and had to take them back :( .

Well, at least i am lucky to be good now and that my eyes are fine but i sure need to take more care.

another grave problem is that the doctor asks me to stop eating "rice, pasta,bread" !!! . how can i live without these three lovers :) . hell, no. I care less about the rest of don't have , which i have known for ages, but no one can separate me from my lovers :)

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These are some information about Diabetes, type 2- grown up type -like me, :) -

and please be careful, nothing worse losing some part of you :)

Diabetes is a chronic (lifelong) disease marked by high levels of sugar in the blood.

Symptoms of type 2 diabetes:

• Blurred vision
• Fatigue
• Increased appetite
• Increased thirst
• Increased urination

The long-term goals of treatment are to:

• Prolong life
• Reduce symptoms
• Prevent diabetes-related complications such as blindness, heart disease, kidney failure, and amputation of limbs

These goals are accomplished through:

• Blood pressure and cholesterol control
• Careful self testing of blood glucose levels
• Education
• Exercise
• Foot care
• Meal planning and weight control
• Medication or insulin use

There is no cure for diabetes. Treatment involves medicines, diet, and exercise to control blood sugar and prevent symptoms.

People with type 2 diabetes should follow a well-balanced and low-fat diet

type 2 diabetes may respond to treatment with exercise, diet, and medicines taken by mouth. There are several types of medicines used to lower blood glucose in type 2 diabetes

Type 2 diabetes is far more common than type 1. It makes up most of diabetes cases. It usually occurs in adulthood, but young people are increasingly being diagnosed with this disease. The pancreas does not make enough insulin to keep blood glucose levels normal, often because the body does not respond well to insulin. Many people with type 2 diabetes do not know they have it, although it is a serious condition. Type 2 diabetes is becoming more common due to increasing obesity and failure to exercise.

you can ,also, check Google health for more information

and again please take care :)

The problem of youth in Saudi Arabia

The teacher is asking the student :- Do you play football?
The student: No
The teacher : Do You write Poem ?
The student : No
The teacher : Then you has no Future.

This caricature is from Alwatan newspaper , Monday's issue, which really represent a huge problem for youths and children in Saudi Arabia and i guess the whole world nowadays.

If you are not a footballer, a singer, a poet or a movie star then you are nothing. They receive a huge amount of money , much more than what a scientist or an activist have, some even more than presidents . Have more fame than someone who is fighting for human rights.

More youth now wanted to follow in the footsteps of singers and actors and footballers than one else. There is nothing wrong in being a singer or a footballer ,of course ,but it's a problem when the whole world wants to follow in their footsteps.

Is Saudi Arabia the worst place for women ?

This is how men can cut your happiness short

On Thursday night, my eldest sister travel over 1000km with her three kids to visit us in this short holiday , and she just left. The whole house is upset and sad and they were so sad too, she left crying while her kids try to resist the leave but .... .

And of course, all due to her stupid husband who called and order them to leave today . That's why i can not respect or love this man. He is so stupid and controlling while pretending this whole i am a religious man. I hate him for making every one's happiness cut short, yes we know it's gonna last probably up to the coming Thursday but today!!!! it's not even half the day !!! .

I would never marry and let someone control me and deny me the basic and simple pleasure. I know for some this means nothing but things are piling and we have not seen them for almost 5 months .

My sister is not an Innocent either andthe problem with her is that she put it all on the kids, he yell and treat her badly and she vent it all on them , whom i know -from being around them- will go into the same cycle we have been in , no respect, no trust, no security, no self respect and no love ..and much more.

I just wish that those three will survive their parents way way better than us or their mother who couldn't escaped the cycle.

Gestures and their meanings in different cultures

Last week, i saw "Inglourious Basterds" , a lovely movie. Anyway, in one of the scences a British soldier hiding is a German one make this gesture when he ordered three drinks

instead of this German gesture

and not to spoil the movie for anyone who wants to watch it, let's just say that things didn't end pleasantly for everyone.

It really made me think about how can gesture mean completely different things in different cultures that can lead to some bad consequences. so i look for some information online and this is some of what i found, enjoy and learn not to make the mistakes of our fellow British soldiers .. and excuse my French -though it's not mine-

what do these four gestures mean in different countries ?

Australia :-

Thumbs-up with a little upward motion can mean up your bum or f**k you, depending on context. If it is still or downwards, it usually means OK or alright (or agreement).

Usually means ''zero'' rather than OK, not common.

''Two beers please'' or ''peace man'' or even ''victory''.

F**k you! But lesser effect and meaning than the middle digit on its own.

Canada:-

Thumbs up. Means ''great'' or ''awesome'' or whatever. Also used to sign approval, but stronger than an OK sign.

OK, alright, good. You can use it to signify approval.

Peace.

F**k you (rarely used).

China :-

OK, good.

Not used.

''I am in the process of having my photograph taken, so I must make this V-sign for some reason'', the same as most places in East Asia.

Not used.

Germany:-

Ok, well done, great.

Job well done or a**hole, depends on region

Peace (rarely used).

Generally means peace (rarely used). In Freiburg and Black Forest region the V-sign with the palm facing the speaker is an insult and considered very vulgar to use.

Greece:-

Means great, good job, OK, congratulations.

OK (rarely used).

Peace.

Two.

Ireland:-

OK, good.

OK.

Peace man.

F**k you.

Italy:-

OK, go or alright…or used for hitchhiking.

OK.

Peace, victory.

Not used.

Japan:-

Sometimes means ''good'', not widely practiced by adults.

Money, for young people it means OK.

Common sign used that is intended to portray an acceptable level of cuteness when posing for photographs.

Common sign used that is intended to portray an acceptable level of cuteness when posing for photographs

New Zealand:

Means like all good, or yes or anything positve really (when hitchhiking this gesture is also used but held right out so people in cars can see).

It's regarded as a cheesy way of saying OK. Not much used.

Peace sign. People do it to each other mostly if they know them and if it is a common gesture betweeen friends.

Another rude sign for the fingers (middle finger). Commonly seen used by drivers out the side window when someones forgotten to indicate, and accompanied by the horn and some unmentionable words.

Russia:-

Well done, good.

Many people would understand this as OK, but they don't use this sign.

Many people would understand this as ''victory'' (because of western films etc), but they don't use this sign.

Many people would understand this as ''victory'' (because of western films etc), but they don't use this sign.

Spain:-

All right.

OK.

Victory, achievement.

Victory, achievement.

Sweden:-

OK, great.

OK.

Peace.

Not used.

Turkey:-

Not used.

Homosexual.

Not used.

Not used.

United Kingdom:-

OK, good.

OK.

Peace man.

F**k you. *)

*) A popular theory regarding this version of the V-sign goes back all the time to when England and France were at war. The English longbowmen were very feared and considered to be the best archers. When English archers were captured the French cut off the index and middle finger of the hand in order to render them useless as archers should future battles occur. As a crude form of psychological warfare the English Longbowmen showed these two fingers to the French before battle in order to show that they were able to kick their ass on the battlefied.

USA:-

Thumbs up. Means ''great'' or ''awesome'' or whatever. Also used to sign approval, but stronger than an OK sign.

OK, alright, good. You can use it to signify approval.

Peace. The outward-facing-palm posture associates more with as something a hippie stoner would do.

Peace. Palm-facing-inward is more ''hip-hop''.

Wikipedia has more info about gestures and their meanings in different cultures

Happy Valentine :)

Happy Valentine to all lovers and a great , long life of love and great companionship.

And to those who have no one to celebrate with, i wish you will have the new and right love soon and that the next valentine you will be with the right one :)

10 Most romantic ... * Celebrating Love 7 *

These are 10 romantic songs and movies .

Of course, to each his/her taste , I hope you will enjoy it .

The Most Romantic Movies

1- The Notebook

2- Titanic

3- Gone with the wind

4- Legends of the Fall

5-Moulin Rouge

6-Love Story ( 1970 )

7- 50 First Dates

8-Casablanca

9- City of Angels

10- P.S. I Love You

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10 Best Romantic Songs

1- Because you loved me - Celine Dion

2- Open Arms - Journey

3- Right here Waiting for you- Richard Marx

4-When I am with you - Sheriff

5- We've Only Just Begun - The Carpenters

6- How Do I Live- LeAnn Rimes

7-Everything I Do- Bryan Adams

8-Wonderful Tonight- Eric Clapton

9- I Want to Know What Love is - foreigner

10- There you'll Be- Faith Hill

How does it feel to be a shia Muslim in Saudi Arabia?

After I post this , i got a lovely email from a friend who happens to be a Saudi and a Shia'. A very well -educated , honest and respected man. We discussed the situation and then I asked him if he can write about being Shia' in Saudi Arabia.

Today his honest and to the point article arrived and i am honored to share it, cuz i believe that Shia' are treated as second-class citizen and that they are judged by the majority of us without even hear them or see them.

If you have any question, I will be glad to send it his way and post his answer here.

I would love to thank you for accepting my offer to write the article despite the painful situation and reminder. Thank you dear friend :)

Here is what he wrote in his own words ......

How does it feel to be a shia Muslim in Saudi Arabia?

As a shia muslim individual in Saudi Arabia who grew up in an entirely Shia community the feeling of being discriminated against or hated by the majority of the public or let’s say the those who are in power be it political or religion starts as early as you join elementary school. We are forced to study religion subjects that actually state we are infidels and call us “Rafidha” which can be translated as rejecters. They mean we rejected the right path and chose the wrong one. Of course those who teach these subjects are the wahabies who believe in such statements and even try to convince the students of that. Many confrontations happened between parents and those teachers.

You grow up thinking ok that just it. School subjects and teachers surely it is not like that in the real world. You graduate from high school with an excellent average that should get you into medical school which usually requires the highest of averages. You pass the entrance exam and go for an interview, you get asked questions about your faith which totally unrelated to what you want to study! And it is not medical school only. There is always a hidden quota, if you accept 1 shia you have to get 10 sunnis with him or her and this might be an exaggeration but it is what you feel if you are part of our world.

Of course we do find jobs but there are jobs and positions that are restricted. A shia man cannot be in the military even if it is compulsory. The high positions like ministers or vice ministers in the government are far and beyond our reach and the closest was just 1 ambassador which only lasted for a very short period. Also in big companies like Saudi Aramco or Sabic, you rarely see a shia man holding a top position and if 1 did, I am sure he worked double or triple what others in the same position worked.

That was related to schools and work.. what about freedom of practicing your faith and beliefs? Well you will grow through hell just to build a mosque in a shia town. You need a "wasta" and sign hundreds of papers. It is even worse to get a license to build a "Hussainiya".

I guess we all remember what happened almost a year ago in Madina where several shia visitors were harrassed and beaten and taken to jail in AlBaqee3 after clashes with the "hai2a" or religious police.

Other points worth mentioning:

1-The government owned TV doesn’t show commercial advertisements for any shia company.

2-No judge would accept marrying a shia individual to a sunni in any Saudi court.

3-Shia websites are easily blocked.

4-Many anti shia sect are created in facebook or another websites by Saudi individuals and they are popular which makes you think that majority of the people really hate you because of what you believe in.

How to have healthy relationship... * Celebrating Love 6 *

Healthy relationships are characterized by respect, sharing and trust. They are based on the belief that both partners are equal and that the power and control in the relationship are equally shared. Some of the characteristics of healthy relationships are:

Respect: Listening to one another, valuing each other's opinions, and listening in a non-judgmental manner. Respect also involves attempting to understand and affirm the other's emotions.

Trust and Support: Supporting each other's goals in life, and respecting each other's right to his/her own feelings, opinions, friends, activities and interest. Valuing one's partner as an individual.

Honesty and Accountability: Communicating openly and truthfully, admitting mistakes or being wrong, acknowledging past use of violence, and accepting responsibility for one's self.

Shared Responsibility: Making family/relationship decisions together, mutually agreeing on a distribution of work which is fair to both partners. If parents, the couple shares parental responsibilities and acts as positive, non-violent role models for the children.

Economic Partnership: In marriage or cohabitation, making financial decisions together, and making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements.

Negotiation and Fairness: Being willing to compromise, accepting change, and seeking mutually satisfying solutions to conflict.

Non-threatening Behavior: Talking and acting in a way that promotes both partners' feelings of safety in the relationship. Both should feel comfortable and safe in expressing him/herself and in engaging in activities.

Boundaries:-
Boundaries are important in determining the health of a relationship. Boundaries clarify where you stop and where I begin, which problems belong to you and which problems belong to me. What are boundaries? "Just as homeowners set physical property lines around their land, we need to se mental, physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguish what is our responsibility and what is not..." (Dr. Henry Cloud)

Each of us has boundaries, some of which go unspoken, in many areas of our lives. We set boundaries in regard to physical proximity and touch, the words that are acceptable when we are spoken to, honesty, emotional intimacy (such as how much we self-disclose to others). When one of both people in a relationship has difficulty with boundaries, the relationship suffers. The following behaviours indicate a potential problem in setting and enforcing boundaries.

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

Telling all
Talking at an intimate level on the first meeting
Falling in love with a new acquaintance
Falling in love with anyone who reaches out
Being overwhelmed by a person (preoccupied thinking about them)
Acting on the first sexual impulse
Being sexual for a partner, not yourself
Going against personal values or rights to please others
Not noticing when someone invades your boundaries
Not noticing when someone else displays inappropriate boundaries
Accepting food, gifts, touch, sex that you don't want
Touching a person without asking
Allowing someone to take as much as they can from you
Letting others describe your reality
Letting others define you
Believing others can anticipate your needs
Expecting others to fulfill your needs automatically
Falling apart so someone will take care of you

Long Term Commitment: The inclusion of this as the very first point indicates the importance of commitment towards a relationship. An absence of it can lead to frustration, anger and infidelity sooner or later in the relationship. A vision of the future of the relationship is what binds people together.

Like Each Other: People choose partners based on the common interests, passion and thought processes. Although liking each other may sound quite simplistic, it is quite an important factor for a successful relationship. Most people stick on to a bad relationship just because they feel they cannot get anyone better. Thus it is a good idea to probe into your partner’s mind questioning simple things like interests, hobbies, career goals. This will make it easier for you to understand the person and whether you want to spend your life with him or her.

Communication: Without proper communication a relationship can never thrive. Hidden resentments need to be vented out or else they can poison any relationship. This of course involves talking as well as listening. While most people are good at venting out their emotions and feelings, only a handful of people actually LISTEN. Hear out what your partner has to say, understand his or her decisions and then put forth your viewpoint. Encouraging your partner to listen and listening when he or she has something to say makes the other person feel appreciated and special.

Spend Time Together: As our schedules become hectic and children take a significant portion of our time and attention, spending quality time together can slip down our list of priorities. However, it is important to find time for one another. Remember the time when you fell in love. The urgency and need to meet the other person may not be sustainable in the long run but spending time on a daily basis is just as important one year down the line as it was when you first fell head over heels in love with him or her.

Arguments: Arguments are a part of life and any relationship will have its set of misunderstandings. Remember that you are two different individuals with separate thought processes and relationships issues are bound to crop up sometime. So arguing is just a part of human nature and is a way of flexing individual personalities. However, it is a good idea to understand your limits in an argument. Physical and verbal abuse is a crime and should not be resorted to in any circumstance.

Affection: Simple things like holding hands, a hug and even a smile can light up our lives. Keep the chemistry alive by taking her out on long romantic drives or cooking him a romantic dinner.

Acceptance: Change is inevitable in our lives and over a period of time everyone and almost everything changes. While some may be easier to accept, others may be difficult for a couple to adjust to. However, remember that in every successful relationship adapting to changes and accepting them is a part of our lives.

Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Both partners give and take, each getting their way some of the time and compromising some of the time.
They respect each other, and value one another's opinions.
They trust one another, and learn not to inflict jealous and restrictive feelings on the other if they should arise.
Neither is afraid of the other.
They communicate openly and honestly, and make their partners feel safe in expressing themselves.
They share responsibility in decision-making.
They accept the differences between them.
They encourage each other to have friends and activities outside the relationship.
Adapted from What Parents Need to Know About Dating Violence

Basic Rights in a Relationship:-

The right to emotional support
The right to be heard by the other and to be responded to with courtesy
The right to have your own point of view, even if it differs from your partner's
The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
The right to live free form accusation and blame
The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
The right to live free from criticism and judgment
The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered

To love again... *Celebrating Love 5*

Is there a way or ways to love again after your heart has been broken ?

Is there a way to mend a broken heart ?

Here is an article that says you can...

Once your heart has been broken, it can be very difficult to love again. Some people never move past a broken heart. However, you can learn to love again, even after being emotionally wounded by a failed relationship or a lost love. To deprive yourself of love is to miss out on one of life’s biggest blessings. Here is how to love again :-

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Grieve your losses. Before you will be ready to love again, you need to heal the pain that your lost love has inflicted. Whether you lost your love through a failed relationship or the death of a loved one, your lost love left emotional wounds. Grieve your losses so you will free yourself to love again.

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Recognize the need to love again. Loving others is one of the most basic needs of human existence. Without love, life is meaningless. While you might need to take some time to lick your emotional wounds, closing off your heart to love will make your life seem empty.

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Decide that loving again is worth the risk. While you are still in the grieving process, your heart might feel too fragile to take the risk of loving again. However, as you grieve your loss and become more emotionally healthy, you will move toward being ready to open up your heart again.

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Love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more likely you are to attract a person who is emotionally healthy. If you go out looking for love to fill a hole in your heart, then you are much more likely to attract someone who wants to take advantage of you. However, if you come from the perspective of having lots of love to give, then you will attract a similar person

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Think about what you want in a new relationship. Set a standard for what you are seeking in a new relationship. Make it a point to progress in this relationship, and don't fall into old patterns just because they are comfortable.

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Let the love come to you. Don’t go out looking for “Mr. Right” in places where singles congregate. Instead, get involved in activities which you enjoy that bring you into contact with people who have the same interests. Whether you do this through a church, a bowling league or a city tennis club, get involved in your community in a positive manner.

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Ease into a new relationship slowly. Do not try to replace the lost relationship. Instead, allow a new

Being Human.. rambling about hate.

What is being human mean? . Does it mean eating, living and cooperate with others. Does it mean taking care of your environment ? Does it mean caring about others , love them and respect them? . Is it one of the important qualities of being a human is to think you are better than anyone else? That your race or religion or society is better? .

I kept thinking all the above and more today cuz the same topic as the one i talked about here happened again. The same favorite topic for so many these days, to dish against Shia' and this time i didn't say A THING, i know i am a COWARD. Because more than ever i was thinking what's wrong with you people? why do these topics pop up from no where ?. An insult from here and a curse from these was blowing all over the place . The poor lady who started the topic couldn't catch her breath from the insults coming out of her mouth, those are sitting around share and those coming for a quick thing share and leave "you have to share ".

That's why i hate exams time where you have to meet with a lot of the ignorant.

The conversation ended with the most shocking remark "God bless Saddam Husein's soul for he was the one keeping the shia' -the meant the one in Iraq- in order " !!!. unbelievable, i was so shocked that i didn't raise my head for about ten minutes, but still i was coward enough to speak up.

What even sadden me more is that my best friend joined in the "god bless Saddam Husein 's soul", i mean ? WHAT ? you !!! . Now this is a lady i know who doesn't follow the rules of Islam by the book ,which is a grave for those lunatics who insisted that you are a sinned person if you didn't follow it properly , and that's OK for her but the Shia' not following what you believe is not OK so you have to call them non Muslims .

We are all going to hell in the eyes of the sheiks who keep preaching hate.

How can i be friend with someone who thinks it's OK for people to be killed because they have another belief? because they believe something else? .

So if i preach the equality for all and someone said i should be killed , she might be the first to throw a stone , is this going to be OK for her ? for all those lunatics at school who think i am a nice lady and respected ?

How can someone be nice and lovely and then hate others based on their beliefs and life style?

Is this what being human mean ? to be nice and a lovely person with people who believe what you believe and hate the rest ?

And you know what it's everywhere? i was checking some blogs lately and landed on one where it's completely dedicated in preaching hate against Islam !!! .

Why would anyone thinks they are better than me cuz they live in the west and are not Muslims?

Why would i think i am better than anyone because i am a Muslims from the land of Islam- as they call Saudi Arabia- and Sunni ? .

And we want hate to end and that this world to live in peace and harmony !!! . Hell if it's ever gonna happen.