Love,Life and Disability

I just finished my third book of the year :)

it's called " Handle with Care" by Jodi Picoult. 

I love a book that made me think all the time  and that's what this book did. 

I wrote about OI here  which is something you are going to read about the whole book. 

But what this book made me think mostly is love. How love is not a one way, and even the toughest actions can be the product of love. 

It's a long one -648 pages- that leaves you wondering if a mother knew that she is going to have a severely sick child and was giving the chance to abort it before, should she go with the idea or is it an action of  not feeling any kind of love towards this child, what if it's actually an action of love ?. 

Whether you are with or against abortion or if your religion says it's wrong or right? , you just keep wondering. 

What about the idea that people with disability are better of being not born. Is life only for the healthy?, are disabled people the wrong kind of people to be on earth?. What about those healthy ones who got a disability 

later on, should we kill them ? . 

I have two nephews and one niece who are disabled, they have cerebral palsy. they don't speak, see, hear or move. I know that their parents should take more care about them cuz i have seen people with the same disability but in a way better shape, but i wonder do their parents-my sister and her husband- think that since they are disabled, it's better to leave them this way, after all-as what everyone keep saying-they will die soon. The oldest of them -Ahmed-have passed away 4 years ago actually. I remember during my sister's grieving and until now everyone wonders why would she cry over him, it's better that he is dead !! 

cuz he is in constant pain and suffers a lot , that's their excuse.

I wonder if these people would say the same about a healthy kid. !!! 

But then the book also question  the love of mothers. Do all mothers necessarily love their kids ? what if your kids sickness and disability got you out of life, you basically have no life because of them. Will that make you love them or hate them more ? . What about if this mother wanted to abort you but didn't, would that make her lesser mother, a monster mother , a bad mother? What if she shows you every single seconds of your life that she loves you, would that substitute for what she tried to do ?. 

When i was reading the book, i remember the times that my mother fails me- when i was younger- the time that she should support me but she didn't, the times that she should stood by me but didn't, the times she let me down and i wonder: didn't she shows me every single moment after that that she loves me and would die for me, wouldn't that substitute this for that ? 

Would that make her a better mother , a loving one. And the answer is yes for me. 

I's just a long journey in which you are going to live and cry with Charlotte , Amelia, Sean and Willow. There are some lines that made me cry, made me close the book because i couldn't read much more, i couldn't even continue the same lines. I loved Charlotte a lot despite labeled badly by everyone else.

Maybe some of us have a certain problem with his/her body but that doesn't make them less or more than the rest of us. 

They maybe need special treatment, but isn't love commitment. 

And remember that bad times can be replaced with great time if you allow it, after all the only disable person is the person who can't/don't/wont love. 

The only disability is in the feelings. 

P.S: Thanks Becky for introducing me to Jodi Picoult and this amazing book :)