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Rabu, 20 Oktober 2010

Good Reads

-It's been four months since the death of my father. I want to see him in a dream cuz i honestly miss him but didn't :( , almost everyone saw him but not me, the irony is that he kept sending good messages to me through them. Anyway, that and more made me cry a lot reading and watching the amazing photos by Philip Toledano entitled "Days with My Father" which he made into a book. You can see and read on the website he dedicated to his father Days with My Father or Days with My Father ( Thumbnails)

-Wearing a veil is harassed by many people all over the world, but it's not different at all "not wearing it " too , Kim Joseph writes about that in discrimination on Both Sides of the Veil

- Amazing pictures of very small creatures magnified in the Nikon International Small World Photomicrography Competition in this article Small World

- A beautiful article into why choosing our news might narrow our views You are not Going to Want to Hear This, But ...

- Press Freedom Index by Reports Without Borders reveals the worst 10 countries The Top 10 Worst Countries

-Another sad news for Arab women. UAE High Court rules that men can beat their wives and young children if there are no visible marks http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/2010/10/18/2010-10-18_uae_high_court_rules_men_can_beat_wives_young_children_if_there_are_no_visible_m.html?r=news&asid=6aa3e4ac

لماذا لاتعين امرأة في هيئة كبار العلماء, الم يكن التكليف للمرأة و الرجل في القرآن. عبدالرحمن الخطيب يناقش هذا في مقالنه من جريدة الحياة المنصب الديني حق للمرأة المسلمة

Senin, 18 Oktober 2010

Another Abused Saudi Woman- Samar Badawi-

I am not a parent but i know how important they are in our lives.

I know how hard it is to be one and the sacrifices they made for their kids.

Parents can be our heaven earth...

but some are definitely are our hell.

no matter how bad your parent is , you owe it to him/her to treated them with respect ,

but that does not mean to be submissive, not to have "no rights" in the name of "he/she is /are my parent" .

Not all parents are wise and God fearing creatures, so some of them can do you huge injustice.

What shall you do in that case ?

are you going to be silence and patient, waiting for things to change or he/she will reason or are you going to fight for your rights?

It's easier to say be obedient, they know better. But sometimes they don't, as simple as that.

The problem is when they don't listen to the sound of reason, too.

Are we just going to complain and hate our parents when they are mean and bad and hope for better days or are we going to grasp onto the few rights we have.

Parents don't "own" their kids. Parents love their kids by instinct, the first time a mother knows she is pregnant , the first time a father lay an eye on his new born baby . But that doesn't mean kids will fall in love necessarily for the same reason.

Samar Badawi is another abused Saudi woman in the name of "he is your father","your father knows better", "you are all belong to your father" and a huge failing in the "judicial system " in Saudi Arabia.

In short, Samar has been abused by her father since the death of her mother when Samar was only 14 years old. Samar was married and has a 7 year old son.

Samar 's father kept interfering in her life and taking her money which lead to her divorce , she then moved to live with her brother. But that didn't stop her father who sued Samar and her brother . She was admitted into a safe house by authorities. Police have dropped all the charges against Samar which was filed by her father.

She then filed a lawsuit to remove her father" guardianship" who is a an abuser, an addict and have been in jail before. Her grandfather and uncle have testified in her favor.

After staying a year and half in the safe house, she asked to move to a place of her own with her son with the approval of her brother and she was giving the permission to do so plus protection from her father.

Even the first judge was on her side. And her father was about to be punished .

Things changed dramatically when her father has gone to the president of the court -who is known for being against the safe -sheltered-house- and filed another lawsuit against his daughter in the name of "impiety", "ingratitude" .

Samar was asked by the president of the court to go back to her father which she refused explaining that she has another lawsuit against her father and a ruling has been issued against him but she doesn't want her father to be punished, she only wants her financial security and independence from her father.

But the judge threatened her with lashing and prison. She had to go back to the safe house after her father continues harassment, she didn't attend two of the court hearings so the judge issued an order for her arrest based on being an "impiety" is a reason for arresting.

She continue running away from her father who by then refuse to let her marry a man who proposed to her despite everyone's approval.

She filed another lawsuit against her father's intransigence and refusing to let her marry , she attend the first hearing knowing that she might be arrested and she was indeed arrested and sent to jail.

After three months , the judge in her latest lawsuit have issued a ruling in her favor and approved her father's intransigence in letting her marry again. All this time the judge who issued a ruling against her in the name of " impiety" and to be sent to prison refused to attend to her lawsuit, claiming that the papers are lost .

There were attempts for reconciliation between her and her father which he refused demanding SR 200,000.

In Ramadan, Samar has called the president of the court asking about her staying in prison which he answer

" are you obedient now, Do you know how strong we are ? " The Supreme Council of Magistracy are investigation the case.

Samar is still in prison, have not seen her son for six and a half months , fighting for her rights against an abusive father despite all.

This is Samar's official blog in Arabic:

http://samarstory.wordpress.com/

Documents that proves her case:

http://samarstory.wordpress.com/othaiq/

The Financial Times have written about her case here

And more blogs have discussed her case :-

In English:-

Hala

Ahmad

Naz

Human Rights Watch

Muslimah Media Watch

In Arabic:-

وسيم

جمعية الدفاع عن حقوق المرأة

Good Reads ( Links )

I stole the idea from Becky , sorry Becky but it's too ood idea not to be stolen.

And the title from Qusay :D

So i am going to gather some articles i read and enjoyed or thought eye opening or provoking and link them here with a bit of introduction.

i actually encourage anyone who reads this to steal the idea for their blogs and maybe introduce us to great articles , writers and blogs.

So here are my first links:-

Finding the Wealth in Wisdom, ever heard of the idea of working smarter than harder ? . Anne Naylor tells us how.

A Call for Women , a message to women all over the world. a beautiful one.

Status Anxiety , Friend yourself before you can love your social network.

Arabic Articles:-

http://prom2000.blogspot.com/2010/10/blog-post_18.html

لمحبي اللوحات الفنية :- مقالة فنية مترجمة عن اشهر حذاء فني

http://shayunbiqalbi.blogspot.com/2010/10/blog-post_18.html

دكتورة سونيت ابدعت -كالعادة- في عرض قصة فيلم عن النساء المغتصبات في البوسنه و نقاط اعتراضها عليه

http://mojil.net/site/?p=14981

حينما تختلط الادوار , يبدأ السباب. من السعودية

http://30masara.wordpress.com/2010/10/17/%d8%ad%d8%a7%d8%b1%d8%a9-%d8%a7%d9%84%d9%86%d8%b5%d8%a7%d8%b1%d9%89/#comment-1070

سني,شيعي, مسيحي, يهودي, بوذي ....الخ. هل فكرنا بهم من قبل ؟, هل عرفناهم بصورة اخرى, صورة محتلفة عن الصورة النمطية الموجودة لدى كلا منا عن الآخر

Minggu, 17 Oktober 2010

What Do You Think you're Worth ?

Seriously , i don't know ...

how about you ?

Rabu, 13 Oktober 2010

Which celebrity would you like to be for a day?

I could be any one who has no burden in life whatsoever.

But since the question is a celebrity, the only name that pops in my mind is Paris Hilton :D, dunno why but she seems careless and with no life, lol

she is smiling in a mug shot !!!

You know sometimes i hate the cliche that it's good to work hard for your things and that tough life makes you stronger !!.

I wanna be careless and with no worries .

But...since it wont happen, let me stick to answering the questions.

How about you, which celebrity would you like to be for a day and why ?

Selasa, 05 Oktober 2010

We're Moving

Thursday morning we are moving to the new apartments inshAllah.

I really hope that this is last time we move ( at least until we have a house of our own) , it's a lot of hard work and spending a lot of money.

But we did get help, a lot of different kinds of help and we are really happy with it, appreciate it and very thankful for all those who have helped us :) .

Minggu, 03 Oktober 2010

Four Tags !!!

I have been tag four times and i have been so lazy so...

Let's begin :)

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Somalianarab Princess tagged me with ( 15 Interesting Things About Me ) :-

I really hope that i can managed to name 15 things cuz i am not that much "into me"

1- I have a good mind who -yea it's a being of its own- likes to learn, analyse and ask.

2- I am a good listeners, sometimes i would fight with you to talk but i can listen endlessly.

3- I love almost everything.

4- I don't hate people or things, yes at times some stuff got me crazy but i tend to forget them easily.

5- I am a very forgiven person.

6- I am down to earth despite my look.

7- I never knew why, but when people know me before meeting me they tend to think that i am a tall lady and they always got shocked to see the real me. I am short ( 151 cm) actually. Always surprise me how our words and personalities can shape the way others imagine us.

8- I have a very bad memory which i can rely on a lot to escape embarrassment moments :)

9- I am a kind person with a huge heart which is what i love mostly about me.

10- I am a very daring person but not with food.

12- I am open minded with respect to everyone and everything.

13- I don't get offended easily but don't be in my face at least a week before my period and three days after,

you might get yourself an enemy if you don't :)

14- I can laugh at myself all the time.

15- Sleeping, food, internet, reading, movies,showering, my solitude are my haven in life.

16- Can i add another one, lol. I am very funny and can make you laugh a lot. My students loves me for this side, i make them feel comfortable. And i am very very very good at telling jokes :)

damn !!! who says i am down to earth when i can say so much about me , lol

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7 Things i hate about myself was a tag to all those who read it by Susu lonnnnng time ago, i told you i am lazy.

so let's get to the ugly side of me.

1- i am lazy . And can be very at times.

2- i can be a small fire of ball easily. i have a bad temper which is starting to cool off by age alhamduliAllah,

and i wont get cool off easily. So don't try to calm me or advise me to calm down. it will trigger me even

worse.

3- i can go on complaining a lot which is very bad.

4- i can be hard to deal with sometimes.

5- I don't trust people easily and my relationship with them can be on and off most times even those close to

me.

6- I am not a good speaker. Sometimes i can not even say one correct sentence.

7- I am moody most times which is very bad especially when it is affecting those around you. But right now

when i feel like being such an annoying person i stay away from all.

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Reading Tag by the lovely Whisper

Who sends the invitation?

Whisper from Things I Like to Whisper About.

Name the books that still in your memory from childhood ?

mostly they were magazines like "Majed" . That's the only magazine i still remember. ( i have a very bad memory, read the tag above )

Important authors you have read ?

I don't like to read according to the name of the author. Yes, the name is always attracting but i like the content more. But mostly i read many well-known names .

An author that you decided not to read again?

Unless no hate preaching then no one. I am reading for Paulo Coelho right now and i didn't like some of his previous books but there are good ones too. So i always think what if they have other good books so..

an author you have never read and wished to read ?

No one in particular. but every talent out there deserves to be read.

Your favorite books?

It's always changing. So the the list will be very long.

Books you are reading now ?

The Story of Zahra-Hanan Al-Shaykh

What book will you take with you in the desert?

I don't think i will take any. Can not read in the morning cuz it's too hot or at night cuz it's dark so i would probably brings lots of water. I even hate the desert so i rather not go there :)

I have not mentioned any thing useful in this tag,I am boring , right whisper? :(

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Lovely Rain tag me this final one

Who send the invitation?

Rain

What are your favorite sites ?

Ohhh boy. I have millions of sites to visit and it was very hard to visit them all so i downloaded Feed Demon to bring them all to me.

I mostly read political and social sites but everything else, too. Like NY times and BBC .

Sites that concerned with human rights like Human Rights Watch , Amnesty International And Women's Rights.

I also like sites that have strange and funny information such as Lemon Drop and Mental Floss.

Blogs or sites with pictures to the current events or different topics like Best News Photo and The Big Picture.