Minggu, 31 Oktober 2010

Indonesia


Sadly Indonesia was faced with two disasters at the same time.

And as usual you get to hear the most stupid comments from people as to why this is happening . Fine, next time a disaster happens to you we will remind you of the same why's . So sad and frustration.

My prayers go to everyone and inshAllah help will be sent their way quickly. 

These are some pictures from The Big Picture, some are very disturbing i couldn't post .

 This aerial photo shows a damaged building in a village flattened by Monday's earthquake triggered tsunami on Pagai island, West Sumatra, Indonesia, Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Achmad Ibrahim) #

 A structure off its foundation and other destruction is seen in this October 26, 2010 photo taken on North Pagai (Pagai Utara), one of the Mentawai islands off the west coast of Indonesia's Sumatra island after an earthquake and following tsunami hit the area the night before. (RUS AKBAR/AFP/Getty Images) #

 This aerial photograph taken from Vice President Boediono's helicopter shows the remains of a village area swept away by a tsunami in North Pagai island, one of the Mentawai islands, on October 27, 2010. (KRIS/AFP/Getty Images) #

 An aerial photo shows trees uprooted by Monday's earthquake-triggered tsunami on Pagai island, West Sumatra, Indonesia, Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Achmad Ibrahim) #

 An aerial photograph taken from Vice President Boediono's helicopter shows a house swept away by a tsunami, leaving only the concrete floor area behind, in North Pagai island on October 27, 2010. (KRIS/AFP/Getty Images) #

Uprooted trees and a battered structure on Pagai island, West Sumatra, Indonesia, damaged by Monday's earthquake-triggered tsunami. Photo taken on Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Achmad Ibrahim) #

A man wears a face mask as ash from the erupting Mount Merapi volcano blankets a street, at Kaliurang village in Sleman, on October 26, 2010 near Yogyakarta, Indonesia. Thousands have been ordered to evacuate as Mount Merapi, which last erupted in 2006, began to emit plumes of smoke and clouds of ash. (Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images)


The sun rises over a smoking Mount Merapi on August 8th of 2010. Original here. (Bernard Tey / CC BY-ND# 

A view of the Mount Merapi volcano emitting smoke is seen from Cangkringan village in the district of Sleman, central Java October 25, 2010. (REUTERS/Dwi Oblo) 
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Villagers travel in a truck after being evacuated from their village to Girikerto village in Sleman, on October 26, 2010 near Yogyakarta, Indonesia. Authorities evacuated more than 11,000 villagers living on the slopes of the Mount Merapi volcano near Yogyakarta on Java after the alert status for an eruption was raised to the highest level. (Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images) # 

 A rescuer carries an elderly woman to a temporary shelter as she is evacuated from her home on the slope of Mount Merapi, in Pakem, Yogyakarta, Indonesia on Tuesday, Oct. 26, 2010. (AP Photo/Slamet Riyadi) #

 Indonesian rescuers evacuate victims of Merapi volcano at Kinahrejo village, Sleman, Yogyakarta on October 26, 2010, after the volcano erupted three times. (CLARA PRIMA/AFP/Getty Images) #

A mother carries her son as she runs following the erupution of Mount Merapi, at Kaliurang village in Sleman, on October 26, 2010. (Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images) #

This file photo taken on May 17, 2006 shows Mbah Marijan, the appointed guardian for Mount Merapi by Yogyakarta's highly respected Sultan Hamengkubuwono X as he prays for the people's safety in Kinahrejo. Marijan was one of the victims of the eruption. Grandfather Marijan was found dead - reportedly discovered in a prayer position - inside his burnt house about four kilometers (2.5 miles) from the peak, local officials said.(Tarko SUDIARNO/AFP/Getty Images) # 

 A rescue worker searches for victims of Mount Merapi eruption in Kinahrejo, Yogyakarta, Indonesia, Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Slamet Riyadi) #

Volcanic ash covers the interior of a house at a village badly hit by pyroclastic flows from Mount Merapi eruption in Kinahrejo, Yogyakarta, Indonesia on Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Slamet Riyadi) # 

 Sukadi (right) prays at the burial of his brother, a victim of the Mount Merapi eruption, at Umbulhardjo village in Sleman, near the ancient city of Yogyakarta, October 27, 2010. (REUTERS/Beawiharta) #

A man watches Mount Merapi as seen from Kaligendol, Yogyakarta, Indonesia, Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo) #

Burnt trees and ash cover the ground in the village of Kinarrejo in Sleman, near the ancient city of Yogyakarta, October 27, 2010. (REUTERS/Beawiharta) # 

Volunteers search for victims of the Mount Merapi eruption at Kinahrejo village in Sleman, Indonesia on October 27, 2010. (Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images) # 

A bowl of noodles and a glass rest on a table, covered by ash at Mbah Marijan's house at Kinarrejo village in Sleman on October 27, 2010. Mbah Marijan, was considered to be the spiritual gatekeeper of Mount Merapi (REUTERS/Beawiharta)  # 

 A buffalo lies dead and covered with volcanic ash at a village hit by pyroclastic flows from Tuesday's eruption of Mount Merapi in Kinahrejo, Yogyakarta, Indonesia on Wednesday, Oct. 27, 2010. (AP Photo/Trisnadi) #

Indonesian search and rescue teams explore the area after Mount Merapi volcano erupted the night before in the village of Pakem in Sleman, Yogyakarta province on October 27, 2010. (CLARA PRIMA/AFP/Getty Images) # 

A car covered in volcanic ash sits amongst surrounding damage after Mount Merapi volcano erupted the night before in the village of Pakem in Sleman on October 27, 2010. (CLARA PRIMA/AFP/Getty Images) # 

A motorist covers his face with his jacket as he rides on an ash-covered road in Klaten, Central Java October 27, 2010 after Mount Merapi erupted on Tuesday. (REUTERS/Andry Prasetyo) #

Jumat, 29 Oktober 2010

Friday Good Reads



Psychological Issues: 
- How to turn misery around and see the falsity of the judgments you make about your own experiences in Getting to Know You 

- What's wrong with being "set in your ways"? or routine Is It Bad To Be Set in Your Ways ? 


- We live in the age of distraction. Yet one of life's sharpest paradoxes is that your brightest future hinges on your ability to pay attention to the present in The Art of Now: Six Steps To Living in The Moment


-Sleeping on a problem helps you find better solutions : Sleep for Success 


-More interesting facts about Sleeping 


-Random acts of kindness really do make you feel happier and in control. Pay it Forward 


- Getting a Grip on the Brain's Alarm System :- Strange Calm in Sea Danger



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Geological  :- 
- 2009 Saudi earthquakes linked to magmatic intrusion in Here



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Neurological :- 
-A very good explaining of one of our most common emotion "Fear" in this article of How The Brain Fears 



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Conspiracy :-
-The top Ten Space Conspiracy Theory here



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Historical :-
-Have you heard of the "Dead Sea Scrolls" , well  Google’s research and development center in Israel and The Israel Antiquities Authority are collaborating to to upload digitized images of the entire collection. More in Dead Sea Scrolls Going Digital on Internet



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Religious:- 
- Not Accepting others' believes and religion is one way to hell on Earth. A must read article in Just Who is Not A Kafir ?


- How to protect minority communities in the Middle East and promote harmony with other religions ?  a few questions discussed in this article ( Christian exodus hurts Middle East) about a Vatican Summit.     


-Many don't believe that there are Christians in the Arab Gulf , but what about those expatriate. Do they have the right to build churches ? If not, How come Muslims claim the rights to built mosques in other countries with a majority of Christians?  . More in Christians in Arab Gulf Face Hurdles of Worship    


-The Struggle of the Ismailis in Saudi Arabia in Muslim Sect Sees Struggle Through Christian Lens.



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Social :-
-Forced Marriage, honor killing and homosexuality in this horrifying story, Tale of gay woman forced to marry to protect 'honour'



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Health :-
- 1 Billion suffer from diseases that might not be deadly but still serious and most of them are in Third World Countries. 1 Billion Suffer from Hidden Tropical Diseases, Says WHO



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Miscellaneous :-
-Do you know that there are some banned food in most countries ? here are seven of them ,
And some are sworn to make us happy !! 10 Meals That Are Proven to Make you Happier            


- Top 10 unanswered questions have been revealed


-12 Marvelous Mausoleums Around The World ( Photos) 

- Would you travel to world to see a specific sunset ? Are they the same ? .Well, here are the Best Places to See The Sunset



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Photos :- 
- Young Miners in India 


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Women's Issues :-
- Why do women apologizes more than men, is it society or is it simply us ? in Women Apologizes More Often Then Men, Study Shows.


- Nudity for a reason or no reason in cinema in the Middle East is a not heard of news nowadays, but in the 70's she was the one. Syrian Actress Tests Boundaries Again .


-Media's fault or not, how can a woman agrees to be in a triangle relationship ? How can a man pretend to be in love with two ladies at the same time and even wants them to be friends? .My opinion, we give people much more position than what they deserve, who the hell is he to treat two woman in this humiliation way ??
The Struggle of one Chilean miner in Chile's Etiquette of Love


- Being a woman doesn't mean you have to be a mother. Some women are actually Childless and Loving It


-Chechen Women Face Increasing Pressure to Adopt Islamic Dress



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Children's Issues:-
-What is good for abandoned children in the west is not necessary going to work for kids elsewhere, the most important thing is that we don't give up.Almost Orphans: Two Children received Unexpected Help



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Technical :-
- 10 Ways to Protect Your Privacy Online


-Keep Your Computer Up-to-Date



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Inspirational:-
- There are so many way to change someone's world. Paper Boy Who Cared for Terminally Ill Customer.


-No Arms, No Legs, No Problem for English Channel Swimmer. 



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Political:- 
-The 10 Most Shocking Secrets From the WikiLeaks Files. 



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Health :-
-Simple Ways to Prevent Alzheimer's

- Can you be Happy again? Can you create your happiness? . Here are Happiness Roadblocks and how you may prevent them.




Human Rights Issues:-
-Iran, Saudi Arabia, Sudan: End Juvenile Death Penalty


-Kuwait: For Abused Domestic workers, No Where to Turn. 


- Saudi Arabia: Reform's Uncertain Future.


-Al-Jazeera highlights lack of protection of Filipino migrant workers in the Middle East


5 distressed Filipino workers in Saudi arrested for filing labor complaints against erring employer


The Sponsorship System and Domestic Labor in Saudi Arabia.



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Arabic Articles:-
كيف تكون المرأة هي الملامه في حالة التحرش بها , أمل زاهد و  لاتزال المرأة تمل وزر من يتحرش بها


و ظهرت اسباب اخرى لقتل الزوجة, عبده خال و قتل الزوجة


لابد من وجود الاطفال السعوديين من امهات غير سعوديات في السعودية ؟ بأي و ضع تم جلبهم الى السعودية ؟ هل ترافقهم امهاتهم ؟ ام تم انتزاعهم من امهاتهن ؟ اسئلة كثيرة لم يجب عليها للاسف السفير السعودي في اندونيسيا في  السفير السعودي في اندونيسيا يؤكد استعادة 12ابناً لمواطنين سعوديين من أمهات اندونيسيات نتاج زيجات غير نظامية


 و قضية اخرى تثبت لامعقولية القضاء السعودي  للمرة الأولى من نوعها في السعودية.. أحد قضاة عرعر يحكم على شاب بالقتل تعزيراً لإدانته بمضايقة و"ابتزاز" فتاة


هالة الدوسري وامل زاهد يتحدثان عن قضية الولايه و تولي المرأة لنفسها في  اين نودع هذه العورات   و  لماذا لاتكون المرأة الراشدة نفسها وليه ؟

Rabu, 27 Oktober 2010

My First Interview: A Journey in the Mind of a Young Jordanian Lady


I love reading interviews with normal people. I guess i can learn more from them than any other celebrity. Plus, i guess in another life i must of have been a journalist :D .

So i formed my own questions and picked up my first guest. 
She was generous enough to let me interview her :)

I am picking up more people, who knows you might get an email from me soon asking for your permission to be interviewed in my small place. 

So back to my first interview and my first guest :)


Her name is Sara but she signs her posts with " Rain". She is a young Jordanian lady blogger. 




1-Would you please introduce yourself to us ? 
My name is Sara AKA Rain,I'm a senior student at the university of Jordan,majoring in foreign languages,nothing unusual about me I'm just the kind of person that wanna have fun,I can be really creative when it comes to useless things! :P


2-  how many members are there in your family and how's your relationship with them? what do they mean to you ? 
well,there's my mom and dad,my 4 sisters and my two brothers..we're a normal boring Jordanian family.

I fight with my mom a lot lol but I can say we're pretty close.my mom is a typical Jordanian mommy..she's the kind of mothers that would kill for her children,she is also the type that uses tough love lol,she used to be a headmistress and we always say she never got over that headmistress character,all in all she is a good mama and I love her very much.

I love my dad so very much but I respect him even more,he is true gentleman,he made himself and he worked so hard all his life,he is super intelligent, he's never proud to admit he is wrong though,and he is always thirsty to learn more,his family is everything to him,and if there's anything I'd wish it would be to one day  as half great as he is

and then there are my two brothers,the bigger one who is a newly-wed and I used to fight a lot,we never really got a long so well,but since he has been married our relationship became warmer and stronger
my other brother is great,I love him very much,I feel sometimes like I should take care of him even though he is older than me,he is not the most reliable person lol,but he sticks to the people he loves,he's funny and I think he is the most one of my siblings that I have things in common with regarding the way we think and our personalities
my sisters;two married ones with kids and two others younger than me,I love my sisters so dearly,if it hasn't been for them I'd be lost in this life,I have always been so different from them but that didn't break us apart
I have fights with them sometimes but I could never go through a week without talking to each and everyone of them 
all in all,I am so blessed with my family,we are not perfect,and we're mostly embarrassing and grumpy,but at the end of the day we stick together :)


3- Where do you live in Jordan? Could you tell us about the best and the worst of your city? what does your city mean to you ? if you have to choose another city in Jordan to live in , what would it be and why ?
I live in my dear Amman,the dearest place ever to my heart,the best thing about Amman is that it is the heart of my memories,you are only attached to places when you have memories in them,and when one place holds so much memories you can't help but love it with all of your heart,I love its atmosphere,the streets,the cafes the places that you could never find anything like them

The worst thing hmmm,probably the bad services;bad transportation,and some of peoples' manners and ways of thinking,but then again that exists everywhere :)
If I were to choose another city it would be Irbid,I love Irbid it is beautiful and the people there are just adorable!


4- For those who haven't visited Jordan before, what places would you recommend to visit ? What kind of food should they try? . What about the places that they must avoid ?
First they should spend some quality time at down town Amman,eat at Hashim's and walk in the streets,shop there,climb the Roman Amphitheater..you know you can't live Amman's atmosphere without these rituals

And then there are many place in Jordan you could go to,for natural views and fresh air you can go to irbid and Ajloun(I lovvvve them),for some site seeing to AL-Salt and Um Qais and Jarash and Petra(one of the world's 7 wonders),for health stuff to the waterfall of Maen and the dead sea(they're both incredible),for the beach Aqaba,for camping Wadi Rum..which is a marvelous marvelous marvelous place...it's astonishing!the first place you should go to is Wadi Rum,and you should camp there as well :)
for food Mansaf Mansaf and then some Mansaf and then more Mansaf...Mansaf is the best thing you'll ever taste..if I had to eat the same thing everyday of my life it'd be Mansaf!:D

Places to avoid,hmm I don't know,I love Jordan as a whole and I can't really divide it into this and that!of course ever place you would go to you may find things that you would not like but that's the way it is every where!Jordan is beautiful as a package,the poor areas and the rich ones...the old and the new,the natural and modern,so don't limit yourself just pack some things and go on an adventure to explore it! :)


5- Can you recommend to us -non Jordanian- some Jordanian movies, novels and songs that will tell us more about the culture and traditions of your country? 
Movies,I don't think there's a really good movie documenting the history of Jordan,or at least I've never seen one unfortunately,as for music,the old folkloric songs can tell you many many things about Jordan,it can tell you that its people are brave,generous and famous with their hospitality,and also there are really nice poems that used to be sang in the past,I don't know their names I just used to hear my mother humming them,and I'm afraid you have to come to Jordan to listen to them as most of them are only reserved in the heads of people

 A book,good book about Amman is:
عبد الرحمن منيف - "قصة مدينة: طفولة في عمّان"


6- Would you name some Jordanian people who you think are influential  in the society? And what were their achievements?
Queen Rania ; she is a very intelligent woman great speaker and active with all kinds of things in Jordan;politics,humanity,charity work,women rights,young people development ,she's been said to be one of the strongest 100 women in the world,here's a link http://ar.wikipedia.org/wiki/%D8%B1%D8%A7%D9%86%D9%8A%D8%A7_%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B9%D8%A8%D8%AF_%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D9%87

and you can watch her with Oprah Winfry on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdHc6VcyfOQ
and she is absolutely GORGEOUS! lol


Ahmad Hassan Al Zouby: This guy is absolutely amazing,he is a sarcastic newspaper writer who writes in the voice of the normal Jordanian citizen..the tired employee,the ambitious student,the busy mother,and even the careless kids!!he is personally my favorite,seriously I like have a crush on him lol,I once saw him he came to our university and he actually speaks better and funnier than he writes!!!
his articles are smart,funny,straight to the point and really strong,I don't think there's a Jordanian who does not adore this writer,this is his website: http://www.sawaleif.com/published.asp
you can read his articles there along with many other things


Emad Hajjaj : is a very famous caricature artist,I have to say that I haven't been a big fan of his lately,it's like he changed,he doesn't speak with that honest modest voice we always loved in the past,but he is still a great writer,I personally preferred his old works more,we practically grew up waiting for his drawings everyday,I remember every morning my dad would come to my mom laughing and show her the caricature :)
he is famous with his character Abu Mahjoob,who represents the middle class Jordanian man and who speaks in the voice of all everyday jordanians,he is really hilarious and I don't exaggerate when I say that most of his drawings are simply genius,I'm sorry if you don't get some of his drawings,the problem is the Jordanian humor is really different,and sometimes you need to know what was happening in the society that made him draw this or that,you can see his cartoons here: www.mahjoob.com


Mohammad Al Wakeel : he's a very famous,very popular radio presenter,his show "b sara7a m3 al wakeel" every morning talks about the biggest problems going on here and there in Jordan,he talks to normal people..listens to them and actually reacts on it and that's what made him win the hearts of Jordanians in no time,he's also very funny and his show became a part of the Jordanian morning rituals(yes we have rituals for mornings lol)


Ameen Matalqa :he is the director of the first Jordanian film ever "Captain Abu Raed" I absolutely love that film,its honest and rich yet simple story captured my heart,and I salute this Jordanian director for it even though I don't know much about him


Mustafa Whaby Al Tall : is a Jordaina poet who spoke in the name of poor oppressed people,all he ever wanted is that they get their rights,he was against rich people in Jordan who never wanted to changes things araound,he used to even do illegal stuff sometimes in order to help poor people,he somehow felt connected to them
he was never afraid to speak out and say the truth,may his soul rest in peace although he was kinda a womanizer lol
I love this verse of his:
وطني الاردن لكنّي به.....كلما داويت جرحا سال جرح

 there are many many other famous Jordanians that I'm proud of,these are only the ones coming to my head now!


7-As a young Jordanian woman, what do you want your country to provide for the young generation? and what should younger generation give to the country in return ? 
Hmm this is a hard question, because it has many sides,one of the sides is that us Jordanian young people are not really interested in giving anything to our country,we're spoiled,selfish and indulged,ignorant of what is going on around us,we're like waking up and going in the same circle everyday not aware of what is around us,and that is one of the biggest problems in Jordan in my opinion
please keep in mind that I'm talking about people my age,my social class and my circumstances..and I think they are the majority
So in order to demand our country to give us the chance to do this and that I think we need to actually figure it out and want it,I think if we set our minds and work for it we have the chance to do many many things,and everyone would support us -there are some exceptions of course but this is the general image-
I feel really sad when every one talk about the new coming generation and how they're getting better education and that they'll do great things,because I'm watching and I can see that these young people around me are nothing but empty future housewives and empty future middle class employees
Everyone demands but no one is really ready to work!


8- Let's go back to your life Rain. Can you tell us as a language student, what attracts you to pursue your studying in languages? Do you think you would get any benefit from learning a certain language or languages in general? Do you advice people to learn languages and why ? 
I actually do not know what attracts me in languages!but ever since I was really young I was fascinated with them!and when I grew up I loved them more and more because I found out that by learning a language you also learn a culture and therefor you acquire a new knowledge,new character and a new way of thinking,it's amazing! 
and never stops amazing me,you can literally switch minds,humors,and words when you switch to the other language,it's like it's giving you another dimension of yourself

Yes I do advise people to learn them,language is one of the things that can show you how wonderful creatures we are as humans,every time you'd discover a new aspect or a new perspective to look at things you can't help but be astonished with these brains we have that created this incredible amount of beauty!
It is an experience for me rather than just a major,that's what I always say :)


9- In your post " The sky" , you posted pictures you took for the sky. Is this a hobby for you or does the sky simply captures your eyes all the time? 
i have noticed many more pictures of the sky in your blog. 
Do you love photography? Do you have any intentions in pursuing this hobby maybe in the future? What attracts you more to snap a picture of a thing and why ?
I don't know what it is,but when I see the sky so beautiful and I don't really have the ability to describe it or talk about it I just take a picture of it
Sometimes that is all you can do,you can't capture all that beauty with your brain...you can feel it immersing your heart but you can't explain it,so the best thing you could do is take a picture of it and keep that beauty reserved right there in your pocket :)
I do not love photography,I adore it :) and yes I do have the intentions to peruse it en sha allah.
I think I answered the last part of this question above :)


10- Do you have any hidden talent ? do you think you want to explore them more ? make them public or keep them private ?
Hmmm,hidden talent?I don't know if you can call it a talent but I love drwaing and painting,I can kinda draw some cartoons similar to Japanese manga and this stuff
explore them more?maybe,making them public,no I do not think they're good enough I'd rather keep them to myself,my lil sister and my nephews and nieces :) 

mmm,I'm also not so bad at writing,but that's not really hidden there are a couple of short stories published in my blog..


11- There are a lot of musical posts. What does music mean to you ? and what's your favorite? 
"Music is what feelings sound like" I think this quote says what music is to me
My favorites..I hate when they ask me about the top,or the favorite or the best..I love all kinds of music,no matter how strange,calm or party-type,western eastern,northern or southern,ancient,old,recent and fresh I love everything,but if I ever have to choose,I'd choose the period of 1940's until 1960's  


12- I have noticed an interest towards "animation movies", what attracts you to them? is it the sense of innocence that attracts you ? . Would you name your top three and why they are your favorite? 
Yes it is exactly the sense of innocence that attracts me the most,no killing,no blood, no violence,no adult scenes and no grown up's-"oh my god life is so complicated"-crap..and at the end you get a beautiful moral,a great story,amazing creativity and astonishing imagination!!what is there not to love about anime movies??
my favorites are
Up
5 Centimeters Per Second
The Grave of The Fireflies
Corpse Bride
Finding Nemo
Monsters inc.
Toy Story Series
Happy Feet
My Neighbor Totoro
Princess Mononoke
Spirited Away
Ponyo
and many others! 0_O



13-In "real women have curves" , you said " this is the best movie ever", would you elaborate more please? 
Gladly :)
When I first watched that movie,I was at a point of my life when I was starting to be conscious of how I look and starting to accept it,I was looking for a definition of beauty,who is beautiful and why?what is beauty?
I thought about it very much,and main while I was not accepting my own beauty,and when I saw this movie the answer was simple and right under my nose..I decide what beauty is
Now that I'm thinking about it,it is definitely not the best movie ever,but it just came in the right time :)


14- What with you and smoking ? you have a strong opinion about how disgusting it's . Do you think we can do more about it ? outside the traditional ideas and warnings?
Almost my whole family smokes,my fathers family are obsessed about smoking,everyone around me smokes,and the reason I hate it so much is that I just don't get WHY 0_O
I tried many times to smoke,to like it,to find out what is it about it making people wanna die for it,but couldn't..
It is confusing me to the point that my answer to the second part of the question is NO,I don't know what could be done about it...it's up to the smoker to wake up and stop this horrible habit. 


15- In your post " hmmm....dunno", you said " i'm almost never scared of anything". Do you still feel the same? are you a reckless , brave or it is not about any ? is it an age related thing ? why do you think people are scared of things or not ? do you think that this is a bad or good trait in you ?
Well,on the emotional level,I'm almost never scared of anything yes,but that is not a good thing,and it doesn't mean I'm comfortable with this thing or that,it just means that I'm a loo7,it's neither reckless nor brave it's just that..and I admit it,I have some issues,I used to think it's just a phase and that I will go back to "feeling" stuff but it's almost been 5 years since I lost the ability to be  excited,scared,or really happy,when I say I'm excited I'm almost always lying 

I do not know why people would be scared of anything,it depends on the person,everyone has something to fear or hate,so it's relative
I obviously think this is a very bad thing in me because like I told you I can't feel anything strong any more on the emotional level 


16-in "bad news" you concluded by saying" no more judging". why do you think people tend to judge and be judgemental? How is that affects your relations with others "when you judge them" and them with you "when they judge you "? do you think it's a local, regional or universal thing ? Did you manage to stay true to what you promised? how did you do it? what are the steps you recommend others to follow to "Stop judging"? 
I'm going to quote Ghassan Kanafany to answer the first part for me :

آهٍ يا أحمَد كَم نحنُ مَحبُوسونَ في أجسادِنا و عُقولِنا،إنَّنا دَائِماً نُعطِي الآخَرِينَ صِفاتِنا وَ نَنظُرُ إلَيهِم مِن خِلالِ مَضِيقٍ مِن آرَائنا وَ تَفكيرِنا،نُريدُهُم أَن يَكونُوا "نحن" ما وَسِعَنا ذلك! نُريدُ أن نَحشُرَهُم في جُلُودِنا،أن نُعطِيَهُم عُيونَنَا كَي يَنظُرًوا بِها،و أن نُلبِسَهم ماضِيَنا وَ طَريقَتَنا في مُواجَهَةِ الحياة وَ نَضَعَهُم داخِلَ أُطُرٍ يَرسُمُها فَهمُنا الحالِيُّ للزَّمانِ وَ المَكان.
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Of course when you treat someone based on the judgment you made about them,you are limiting them in your mind in only that,making you unable to really get to know them and the way they think,and the same goes the other way around
I think it's a part of the human nature i.e universal,but we should all try to outcome it and keep our minds open
I did not manage to keep my promise unfortunately as you will see in the next question lol,I'm such a judgmental person I admit it!but I'm trying,and I promise I'll keep trying !!
To stop judging:just wait,give it time..time and some more time!time will reveal everything so don't rush it and judge,just wait!


17-what happened to the Jewish girl in " i am just not that open-minded"  post . Have you finished tutoring her? how can we -in your opinion- respect others? their belief? and how can we demand the same from them? 
Aww,my dear Rachel,that Jewish girl became a close friend of mine!lol as I told you I did not keep my promise and I judged her big time!

I finished tutoring her and we ended up having so much fun :)))
we can respect others and their beliefs first by not judging them!
by not being so defensive,by not thinking all the time about the differences between us on the contrary,try to find things in common,we are all human beings at the end of the day,and no matter how different we are we have humanity to share
and simply if you respect someone,you don't have to demand anything,they'll respect you in return :) 


18- Finally,why did you start your blog? has it been helping?. It's says " my public journal", does that mean there is a private one? and what's the difference since you are almost anonymous in this one ? 
At the time I decide to start my blog one year ago,I was having a very hard time,I'm sorry I can't talk about it,but the point is I was in need to organize myself,my ideas and my feelings,I needed to be distracted,I had to be alone to question myself and who I am...my friend Toto advised me to write everything I was feeling down no matter what..and so I did,and yes it helped of course,I'm so glad I started my blog,I always say it's my very own way of hearing myself thinking,and I regret that I deleted many posts of it at first,but now I'm keeping everything..good or bad :)
Yes of course there's a private one but I don't write in it very often,only when I'm depressed and it is not a public material to discuss hehe and I guess that is the only difference..I write everything on my mind in my public journal but when it gets too messy and personal I get my little note book and my pen out :)


Rain, I would love to thank you for taking the time to answer my questions in length. 
I felt the need to ask more based on your answers but seriously was shy to burden you. 

So as a reader to this interview , i would like to ask you this one question only :
Based on your relation with Rachel- The Jewish Girl- Do you think that there might be a chance of peace or friendship between Muslims and Jewish despite what is going on in Palestine? 

I guess Rain wont mind if anyone have a question for her, so go ahead :) 

Minggu, 24 Oktober 2010

Honor Killins is A Shame ( Video )

Unsettled Soul have shared this heartbreaking, scary and so sad video about honor killing.

Please Watch but be aware that some of the images may be disturbing.


Read more about honor killing on these sites:-



No body deserves to be killed no matter what the excuses are. 
You want this world to turn into a jungle, then allow honor killing. 

Please do something about it and if you can, at least share the word. 

There is No Honor in Honor Killing

Sabtu, 23 Oktober 2010

CAPS LOCK DAY


DID YOU KNOW THAT 22 OCTOBER WAS CAPS LOCK DAY ??

sorry for the annoyance with the caps lock, but seriously there is a caps lock day and it's celebrated on the 28 June and 22 October. 

Caps Lock Day have an international made up holiday and a dedicated website that says "CAPS LOCK DAY IS A CELEBRATION OF LIFE AND FOREVER SCREAMING TEXT FOR ALL ETERNITY LOVE!"

 "The message is to stop taking everything so seriously,"  as Indiana computer guy Derek Arnold (aka DEREK ARNOLD) told the Washington Post. Arnold and friends announced the holiday via MetaFilter in 2003, posthumously inducting Billy Mays -- the beloved, volume-control challenged pitchman -- last year as CAPS LOCK DAY person of the year. (Source)

well, on that i agree, cuz i am too tired of taking things seriously.But still i can not stand caps lock  :(  




Jumat, 22 Oktober 2010

Good Reads

-What is Islamic Feminism ? how can you be a Muslim and a Feminisit ? Amina Wadud answers in thie beautiful article Islamic Feminism


-Do we only hate people and descriminate against them according to their race and religion only? No, there are way too many reasons why people descriminate against others. And lots of people are mocked and called names just because they are "fat", this amazing blog discusses this issues in details and this is one of its posts This Week in Fat Hatred


- You likely see yourself very differently from the way others see you. A little self-awareness can prevent a lot of misunderstanding in Mixed Signals


- the differences between self-respect and self-esteem. Explanation on esteeming anything and respecting something; Test of self-respect; Advantages of self-respect in Self- Esteem Vs Self-Respect 


- Even hard-core skeptics can't help but find sympathy in the fabric of the universe—and occasionally try to pull its strings in Magical Thinking 


-Technical information with "Delete" and why it's importante to delete What Is Delete?


ماهي السعادة, هل هي المال ام الوظيفة ام الرضا ربما ؟ . نجلاء كتبت نظرة جميلة عن الرضا
الرضا و السعادة


أهمية الرأي الآخر كما يتبناها عبدالله بن بخيت في مقالته في جريدة الرياض حقوق المرأة مايطلبه المستمعون


اسباب العنوسه لدى المرأة و ماذا يراد يهذا اللقب "المهين" كما يعتبره البعض بالنسبة للمرأة و الحلول تتطرق اليها الدكتورة هتون الفاسي في مقالتها العنوسة زواج او لا زواج, ماالمشكلة؟


ارتفاع مستوى البطاله في السعودية الى مستوى 10.5 % اخطر من امراض فتاكه كما يوضح الكاتب عبدالعزيز على السويد في العاطلون قنابل موقوته


اطفالنا و غير المسلمين  و الاسباب كما يناقشها عبدالله المطيري في  استغلال الطفولة: درس لاتسلم


انتشرت في السنين الماضية انواع زواج مختلفة و اشهرها زواج المسيار و هو ماتناقشه الرائعة  د. سهيلة زين العابدين حماد في  عودة الى زواج المسيار و نقاش مع القراء


الدنيا و الجنه في الحب و الكره كما يناقشها فالح عبدالجبار في عن الدنيا و الجنه


عن الكراهية المستعرة بين السنه و الشيعة في العالم العربي يكتب شفيق ناظم الغبرا الطائفية في الواقع العربي: إشكالية السنه و الشيعة


بعضا من معاناة المرأة السعودية مع الورقة مع د. هيا عبدالعزيز المنيع و ورقة بحجم السماء

Rabu, 20 Oktober 2010

Life



What about your life ? 


what is your philosophy ? 


Good Reads


-It's been four months since the death of my father. I want to see him in a dream cuz i honestly miss him but didn't :(  , almost everyone saw him but not me, the irony is that he kept sending good messages to me through them. Anyway, that and more made me cry a lot reading and watching the amazing photos by Philip Toledano entitled "Days with My Father" which he made into a book. You can see and read on the website he dedicated to his father Days with My Father  or  Days with My Father ( Thumbnails)


-Wearing a veil is harassed by many people all over the world, but it's not different at all "not wearing it " too , Kim Joseph writes about that in discrimination on Both Sides of the Veil


- Amazing pictures of very small creatures magnified in the Nikon International Small World Photomicrography Competition in this article Small World 


- A beautiful article into why choosing our news might narrow our views You are not Going to Want to Hear This, But ...


- Press Freedom Index by Reports Without Borders reveals the worst 10 countries The Top 10 Worst Countries

-Another sad news for Arab women. UAE High Court rules that men can beat their wives and young children if there are no visible marks http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/2010/10/18/2010-10-18_uae_high_court_rules_men_can_beat_wives_young_children_if_there_are_no_visible_m.html?r=news&asid=6aa3e4ac



لماذا لاتعين امرأة في هيئة كبار العلماء, الم يكن التكليف للمرأة و الرجل في القرآن. عبدالرحمن الخطيب يناقش هذا في مقالنه من جريدة الحياة المنصب الديني حق للمرأة المسلمة

Senin, 18 Oktober 2010

Another Abused Saudi Woman- Samar Badawi-


I am not a parent but i know how important they are in our lives. 
I know how hard it is to be one and the sacrifices they made for their kids.

 Parents can be our heaven earth... 
but some are definitely are our hell.

no matter how bad your parent is , you owe it to him/her to treated them with respect ,
but that does not mean to be submissive, not to have "no rights" in the name of "he/she is /are my parent" . 

Not all parents are wise and God fearing creatures, so some of them can do you huge injustice. 
What shall you do in that case ? 
are you going to be silence and patient, waiting for things to change or he/she will reason or are you going to fight for your rights? 

It's easier to say be obedient, they know better. But sometimes they don't, as simple as that. 

The problem is when they don't listen to the sound of reason, too. 
Are we just going to complain and hate our parents when they are mean and bad and hope for better days or are we going to grasp onto the few rights we have. 

Parents don't "own" their kids. Parents love their kids by instinct, the first time a mother knows she is pregnant , the first time a father lay an eye on his new born baby . But that doesn't mean kids will fall in love necessarily for the same reason. 


Samar Badawi is another abused Saudi woman in the name of "he is your father","your father knows better", "you are all belong to your father" and a huge failing in the "judicial system " in Saudi Arabia. 

In short, Samar has been abused by her father since the death of her mother when Samar was only 14 years old. Samar was married and has a 7 year old son. 
Samar 's father kept interfering in her life and taking her money which lead to her divorce , she then moved to live with her brother. But that didn't stop her father who sued Samar and her brother . She was admitted into a safe house by authorities. Police have dropped all the charges against Samar which was filed by her father.

 She then filed a lawsuit to remove her father" guardianship" who is a an abuser, an addict and have been in jail before. Her grandfather and uncle have testified in her favor.

After staying a year and half in the safe house, she asked to move to a place of her own with her son with the approval of her brother and she was giving the permission to do so plus protection from her father.

Even the first judge was on her side. And her father was about to be punished . 
Things changed dramatically when her father has gone to the president of the court -who is known for being against the safe -sheltered-house- and filed another lawsuit against his daughter in the name of "impiety", "ingratitude" . 

Samar was asked by the president of the court to go back to her father which she refused explaining that she has another lawsuit against her father and a ruling has been issued against him but she doesn't want her father to be punished, she only wants her financial security and independence from her father. 
But the judge threatened her with lashing and prison. She had to go back to the safe house after her father continues harassment, she didn't attend two of the court hearings so the judge issued an order for her arrest based on being an "impiety" is a reason for arresting. 

She continue running away from her father who by then refuse to let her marry a man who proposed to her despite everyone's approval. 
She filed another lawsuit against her father's intransigence and refusing to let her marry , she attend the first hearing knowing that she might be arrested and she was indeed arrested and sent to jail. 

After three months , the judge in her latest lawsuit have issued a ruling in her favor and approved her father's intransigence in letting her marry again. All this time the judge who issued a ruling against her in the name of " impiety" and to be sent to prison refused to attend to her lawsuit, claiming that the papers are lost . 

There were attempts for reconciliation between her and her father which he refused demanding SR 200,000.

In Ramadan, Samar has called the president of the court asking about her staying in prison which he answer 
" are you obedient now, Do you know how strong we are ? " The Supreme Council of Magistracy are investigation the case. 

Samar is still in prison, have not seen her son for six and a half months , fighting for her rights against an abusive father despite all. 


This is Samar's official blog in Arabic:

Documents that proves her case:


 The Financial Times have written about her case here 

And more blogs have discussed her case :-
In English:-